She was your daughter too.

26 Apr

She was your daughter too.

I had an entirely different post for today, however, I ran across this article on Tumblr, and I was compelled to share it with you.

“My daughter wasn’t bullied to death, she was disappointed to death. Disappointed in people she thought she could trust, her school, and the police. She was my daughter, but she was your daughter too. For the love of God do something.”
— Glen Canning, father of Rehtaeh Parsons





“Knowing what’s right doesn’t mean much unless you do what’s right.”

~Theodore Roosevelt

30 Responses to “She was your daughter too.”

  1. Farah Ng @ Broken Penguins April 27, 2013 at 3:20 am #

    It’s disgusting what happened to Rehtaeh Parsons but I’m so glad we’re finally having a serious talk about bullying in schools. It’s been a problem for way too long, happened to far too many people and the damage lasts forever. I’m disappointed in myself for never reporting my bully.


    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega April 27, 2013 at 3:31 am #

      Don’t be too hard on yourself Farah. Not too long ago people thought being bullied was some kind of rite of passage for kids. Some people actually believed that bullying would strengthen their kids. Now we know better. Awareness is the key. I’m sorry you were bullied. Thank you for visiting my blog. It’s nice to meet you. Stop by anytime.


      • Farah Ng @ Broken Penguins April 27, 2013 at 3:35 am #

        You’re right. And I thought I was the only one she was bullying until years later. Now we’re Facebook friends, whatever that means. Thanks for sharing!


      • Vashti Quiroz-Vega April 27, 2013 at 5:15 pm #

        Wow!Has she apologized for her actions toward you? Have you spoken to her about the bullying issue?


      • Farah Ng @ Broken Penguins April 29, 2013 at 2:14 pm #

        Nope and nope! Didn’t feel like digging up old wounds. But in another life I would have piped up.


  2. Amy Mayen April 27, 2013 at 6:05 am #

    I was tortured in school. There is a 15 year old girl in the next town over who killed herself. I’m glad you are writing about it. I’m the happiest person alive now, but there were times back in high school when I didn’t care whether I lived or died. High school and middle school is one of the hardest times in life. You base your self worth on others opinions…I wouldn’t go back to that age for anything! I have an 8 year old and I’m keeping a close eye. I’m also teaching her not to be a bully. I told her how much it hurts. Thanks for posting, it really strikes a chord with me 🙂


    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega April 27, 2013 at 5:03 pm #

      Hello Amy! I’m so sorry you had such a hard time in school. Everyone should have nice memories of Junior High and High School, but unfortunately that’s not always the case. I’m so happy to read that you’re teaching your child about bullying! You’re doing the right thing. Awareness should start at home. It is so wonderful to meet you. Thank you for visiting my blog and sharing your experience. 😀


  3. Reflex Reactions April 27, 2013 at 2:36 pm #

    I had never heard of this story till here. I have followed your leads and others and can only hope Rehteahs legacy will be a step forward for humanity, what a tragic tale, that does need to be bought to peoples attention, thanks for bringing it to mine.


    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega April 27, 2013 at 5:12 pm #

      Hello!I’m so glad I was able to share this story with you. Many people still believe that bullying is not a serious issue and that it’s part of growing up. It’s obvious those people have been lucky enough to have never been bullied. Bullying hurts. Bullying kills. Thank you so much for stopping by. I always appreciate your comments. 😀


  4. Heather may April 27, 2013 at 9:29 pm #

    WOW. Powerful information. I was tormented during junior high and know that it is a huge point when I educate my children on how to act. It is a shame that kids go through this and it is a bigger shame that the world has been silent for so long. Thank you for sharing and for bringing a spotlight to the issue. Glad to have you at the frugalfitfamily party. Love to see more!


    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega April 27, 2013 at 9:59 pm #

      Hello Heather! Thank you so much for stopping by. It’s terrible that you had such a hard time in Junior High. That’s an age where so much turmoil is already going on in your body the added mental stress can only push some kids to the edge. I commend you for teaching your kids that bullying is wrong. It should start in the home. You’re an awesome mom! Thank you, I’m happy to be part of the frugalfitfamily. You will definitely see more, bullying is an issue that I feel very strongly about. 😀


  5. Meg Mims (@megmims) April 28, 2013 at 12:41 pm #

    There’s a “Lord of the Flies” in every school — but social media has expanded that into a “larger world” and the cruelty is far worse. I emphasize to parents that *they* must be champions for their kids in whatever circle — home, school, sports, etc. And kids need to learn to speak out. Great post.


    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega April 28, 2013 at 3:57 pm #

      I absolutely agree Meg. Well said! It must start in the home, and it is important for kids to learn to speak out.


  6. Vashti Quiroz-Vega April 29, 2013 at 3:56 pm #

    I guess everyone has to do what’s best for them.
    All the best! 😀


  7. Hart Johnson April 29, 2013 at 4:56 pm #

    Powerful stuff. I think that is so much of the problem–people sit back and do nothing… burden of proof is on the victim. We really need to somehow train our kids to intervene on behalf of the kids. I think parents jumping in often backfires, at least when it’s mild. Though parents CAN help kids develop some skills to let stuff roll off–humor helps. Isn’t enough for a lot of it, though.


    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega April 29, 2013 at 5:19 pm #

      Hello Hart! It would be a much better world if all kids were taught empathy. If a person has the ability to understand and share the feelings of another it would be much more difficult for that person to hurt others because then he/she would feel their pain.
      Thank you for visiting my blog and for your very insightful comment.


  8. Jessica April 30, 2013 at 1:11 am #

    Hi Vashti,

    Thank you so much for the powerful post! I was bullied back in Middle School. I hated it s much that I asked my mom to put me in private school. I’m not sure what happened but everything turned around for the better in high school. I am a huge advocate of bullying because of how I felt when I was younger. Thank you, again for this and posting it on The Show Off Blog Party!

    The Wondering Brain


    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega April 30, 2013 at 3:07 am #

      Hi Jessica,
      It’s really amazing how many people have suffered as kids because of bullying. You would think that the issue of bullying would be taken more seriously. I believe awareness is the key. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to post it on your blog party. xx


  9. Sarah April 30, 2013 at 9:05 pm #

    Hi friend! Thanks for the sweet comment on my blog. I’m hoping for good luck from that nest now because of you! I wanted to email you back, but you are a no-reply blogger. I’d suggest you change that and here’s a great tutorial how…


    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega April 30, 2013 at 9:18 pm #

      Thank you Sarah! I had no idea I was a no-reply blogger. I don’t even know what that means exactly. I’ll check out the link you sent me. Thanks again. 😀


  10. Jill Paterson May 1, 2013 at 3:22 am #

    Thanks, Vashti, for following my blog. It’s great to connect through the WLC. Good luck with your new release. Best Wishes, Jill


  11. Roze May 1, 2013 at 4:21 pm #

    Thanks for posting this Vashti!


  12. Nicole May 2, 2013 at 2:57 am #

    Thank you for sharing this story. It makes me so sad to hear stories like this. Bullying is such a huge problem! I’ve had to deal with it with my boys and it just breaks my heart.


    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega May 2, 2013 at 3:12 am #

      You’re welcome Nicole. It breaks my heart every time I hear of someone going through this. I’m sorry your boys have had to experience bullying. I hope you were able to speak to the parents of the bullies. Thank you for visiting my blog. I hope I hear from you again. Please give me an update on your boys. 🙂


  13. Marci May 5, 2013 at 9:20 am #

    Excellent post! -Marci @ Stone Cottage Adventures


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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega May 15, 2013 at 11:41 pm #

      Oh my goodness! Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m very happy you enjoyed my post! Please come back soon. 😀


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