Haiku Friday – Don’t Abuse Grandma!

7 Aug

Hello everyone! Happy Friday! Today is Haiku Friday but I don’t have a haiku for you. 😦 I got back last night from a mini vacation and didn’t have the time or energy to prepare one––sorry. My sister, Kathleen came down from NYC for a few days and since we both have birthdays this week we decided to go down to the Florida Keys. We had three marvelous days of swimming, kayaking, fishing, and generally celebrating our birthdays. We had a great time but I’m exhausted.  We have plans of continuing to celebrate our birthdays here in Miami until she leaves on Sunday. 😉

 

I wrote a guest post about elderly abuse a couple of months ago and I had plans to post it on my blog eventually, so that day has come. Today I will share that post with you. It’s an issue that I care about and that more people should be made aware of.

 

Elder Abuse

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I’ve written on the subject of abuse and bullying on many occasions on my blog but I don’t think I’ve ever specifically addressed the abuse of the elderly. This is obviously an important subject that’s too often overlooked.

 

Words cannot describe how much I love my maternal grandmother. She passed away years ago but there’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think about her. I can’t imagine someone abusing my sweet, kindhearted ‘granny’ in any way. Sadly, there are plenty of grandparents being abused on a daily basis.

 

Elder abuse happens to men and women, in all ethnic, social and economic groups.

 

And while a lot of media attention has been given to stories of elder abuse by caregivers in private homes, the truth is that anyone can be guilty of committing elder abuse, including family members.

 

Elder abuse is generally divided into the following categories:

 

Physical Abuse

 

Sexual Abuse

 

Domestic violence

 

Psychological Abuse – The willful infliction of mental or emotional anguish by threat, humiliation, or other verbal or nonverbal conduct. This includes threatening to put them in a home if they don’t act the way you’d like them to.

 

Financial Abuse – The illegal or improper use of an older person’s funds, property, or resources.

 

Neglect – The failure of the caregiver, and that could be the spouse, son, daughter or grandson/daughter, to fulfill his or her care giving responsibility. Is it abusive to not call or visit your elderly parents for months at a time? I’d say yes.

 

We shouldn’t forget that every day we grow older. No one gets any younger and one day we will be the elderly. We will no longer have the speed, agility or strength we have now. Our bodies will grow weaker, our minds will become foggy, our vision cloudy . . . Would you like someone to take advantage of that? How would you feel if you were discarded because you were no longer young?

 

Elder abuse is a substantial subgroup of Family Violence. It may be more widespread than thought. Awareness of its occurrence is a first step in halting its progression.

Cranky Old Man poem

If you’d like to know the origins of this poem look here.

Have a great weekend everyone! 😀

41 Responses to “Haiku Friday – Don’t Abuse Grandma!”

  1. stacilys August 7, 2015 at 2:41 pm #

    What a beautiful post and poem Vashti. And a very happy Birthday to you.
    🙂

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  2. olganm August 7, 2015 at 3:21 pm #

    I hope you and your sister enjoyed your birthday and thanks for this post. Very important topic. Thanks for sharing.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 7, 2015 at 4:49 pm #

      You’re very welcome, Olga. My sister and I had a blast at the Keys which are a group of small islands off of Florida. My sister had a lot of firsts this week. It was her first time at the Keys, her first time on a kayak, and her first time eating conk fritters. Ha, ha! 😉

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  3. teagan geneviene August 7, 2015 at 3:29 pm #

    Vashti — belated wishes for a very happy birthday! ❤
    Thank you for sharing this poem. The world is overflowing with so many forms of bullying. Too many people ignore the fact that it exists. Thank you for being willing to address it. Hugs! 🙂

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 7, 2015 at 4:50 pm #

      Thank you Teagan! I love this poem. It was my pleasure to share it, so you’re very welcome. Hugs&Kisses ❤

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  4. Yolanda Isabel Regueira Marin August 7, 2015 at 6:57 pm #

    A distressing subject matter well covered Vashti 😊

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  5. Hugh's Views and News August 8, 2015 at 7:53 am #

    Happy Birthday Vashti. I love the Florida Keys (especially Key West). Been there a few times. Wish I could have joined you and your sister.

    Wishing you a lovely weekend.
    xx

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 10, 2015 at 11:49 am #

      Thank you Hugh! Key West is awesome, it’s its own little country. 😉 The Keys are a great escape. We would have had an even bigger blast with you along! 😀 Thank you! You have a great week too! ❤

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  6. Dave Goodlove August 8, 2015 at 9:58 am #

    Happy Birthday, my friend!! 🙂

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  7. Living in Mommywood August 8, 2015 at 11:27 am #

    Great share hope you enjoyed your special day and this post touched me because I currently take care of my grandma who has Alzheimer’s and in the past I have worried about someone treating her poorly, luckily I have wonderful home attendants that help me care for her 🙂

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 10, 2015 at 12:07 pm #

      Hello! Thank you so much! I’m glad the post was helpful. It takes a very special person to care for an Alzheimer’s patient, even if that patient is your beloved grandma. It seems your grandma is in good hands––she is blessed. I’m glad you’ve got help. ❤

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  8. Sunni Morris August 8, 2015 at 6:13 pm #

    I love this poem. i’ve seen it before Elder abuse is very worthy of a post. Before we know it, we’ll all be there.

    I hope you and your sister had great birthdays! One of my sisters and I were born a year and a day apart. We don’t often celebrate together anymore because we live in different states and schedules interfere with getting together, but we did all the time as kids. We always talk by phone when it’s both our birthdays at the same time due to the time zone change.

    Always wanted to visit the Florida Keys, but haven’t done it yet.

    Sunni
    http://sunni-survivinglife.blogspot.com/

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 10, 2015 at 11:56 am #

      Hi Sunni! I agree, Elder Abuse is definitely worthy of a post. I think when most people think of abuse they think of spousal and child abuse and we often forget about elder abuse. That’s why it’s good to bring it up every so often.
      We had a great time, Sunni! My sister lives in NYC so it’s difficult to get together around our birthdays every year but when we do we try to make it fun.
      That so cute that you and your sister call each other on the days of both your birthdays at the same time––and so bizarre––in a cool way.
      You should visit the Florida Keys when you get a chance. It’s a fun and unique place to visit. 😀 xx

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  9. raphaela99 August 10, 2015 at 3:23 am #

    Happy Birthday, sweetheart! Thankyou for highlighting this very real problem too. xxx

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  10. Darshith Badiyani August 10, 2015 at 8:00 am #

    Belated B’day Beautiful 😉 Great post 🙂

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  11. veronica lee August 10, 2015 at 11:50 pm #

    Thank you for sharing this. It’s an issue more people should be made aware of.
    Happy Belated Birthday!

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 11, 2015 at 11:53 am #

      You’re welcome Veronica. It’s an important issue and you’re right more people should be made aware of it. 🙂 Thank you.

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  12. Lisa W Tetting August 11, 2015 at 3:49 am #

    You spread positive vibes so I have nominated your blog for the Sunshine Blogger Awards Challenge. Click here for details: https://rebirthoflisa.wordpress.com/2015/08/11/the-sunshine-blogger-award-challenge/

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 14, 2015 at 10:50 am #

      Hi Lisa! Thanks for the award nomination! It’s an honor to be nominated by you. I just saw this comment because for whatever reason WordPress decided your comment was spam! I rarely check comments that go into spam but I decided to have a look today. I’m glad I did and I probably should check more often from now on. Thank you again for thinking of me! 😀 xx

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  13. JESS44903 August 11, 2015 at 11:23 pm #

    Such a very important post! Great job, as always!

    Thanks for joining Cooking and Crafting with J & J!

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 12, 2015 at 11:33 am #

      Hello Jess! Yes, it is an important subject. Thank you very much for reading. Always a pleasure to link-up! 😀 xx

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  14. Raising Samuels August 14, 2015 at 3:21 pm #

    How awful to abuse anyone but especially an elderly person who is weak and may not be able to take care of themselves. The Keys sound like a great place to visit. That place is on my bucket list. Thanks for sharing with #SocialButterflySunday. Hope to see you link up again this week 🙂

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 16, 2015 at 5:28 pm #

      Hello! I believe only a pathetic coward could abuse a child or and elder. The Florida Keys are a fantastic place to visit. I hope you do make it over there some day. You’re very welcome. It was fun linking up! 😀

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  15. Prakash Hegade August 17, 2015 at 3:53 pm #

    Thank you for sharing this. It was very thoughtful.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 17, 2015 at 5:00 pm #

      You’re welcome. It is an issue I care very much about. 🙂

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      • Prakash Hegade August 17, 2015 at 5:02 pm #

        Glad to hear that. Even i am. I did a course on coursera from OldGlobe, it motivated me to think more on these issues. I really liked this article. Thank you again for sharing.

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      • Vashti Quiroz-Vega August 17, 2015 at 5:13 pm #

        You’re very kind. You should write an article about this too. After all, awareness is the key to stopping abuse. 😉

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      • Prakash Hegade August 17, 2015 at 5:21 pm #

        Its your greatness to say so. I exactly dont have written about awareness, but have covered a few things here:
        https://itsphblog.wordpress.com/ageing-society-and-we/

        I sure will sometime. 🙂 Thank you.. 🙂

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