Haiku Friday – Choice & Faith

8 Jun

Hello, everyone! Welcome.

I have a friend who is intelligent, kind and beautiful. Despite having these great qualities, among others, she has a low self-esteem. She often berates herself, and she can’t take a compliment to save her life. This saddens me, because her low self-esteem holds her back from achieving certain goals and living a good life. 

Her issues with low self-esteem stems from her childhood. She grew up with a verbally abusive father who called her names like stupid (although she was a straight “A” student), idiot, dimwit . . . whenever she made a mistake as a child. His name-calling escalated to profanity and it would happen for the smallest things, from spilling milk to wrinkling her dress. The silliest things would set him off.

Now she’s an adult, she has a great career, husband, wonderful kids, a beautiful home. She’s made a great life for herself, but whenever she makes the tiniest of mistakes, her father’s voice is in her head calling her names and making her feel like garbage.

I’m happy to say that she’s seeing a therapist for this problem, and she has told me that things are much better. She has no idea how strong she’s been all her life. 

Many people believe that words are just words, but they are so much more. Words have driven many to alcohol, drugs, excessive eating, depression and even suicide. Words have a lasting impact, especially those said to a child. 

Be careful how you talk to others, whether it be your spouse, children, friends, employees or coworkers. Berating someone is no way to teach or communicate. If you speak to someone with kindness, respect and consideration, they’re more apt to listen and comply.

Be smart in the way you communicate with others and yourself, because there are consequences, not only to our actions, but also to the words that come out of our mouths.

 

I wrote two haiku today. I decided to use more the feel of the words rather than the actual words. Truth for “Faith”, which is what these haiku portray, and the lack of choice someone with low self-esteem may believe they have.

 

Choice and Faith are this week’s prompt words chosen by Ronovan Hester of Ronovan Writes.

Ron hosts a challenge that anyone could participate in called Ronovan Writes Weekly Haiku Poetry Prompt Challenge every Monday, and you have until Sunday to create a post featuring your haiku poem. He is an author and poet and also does author interviews and much more on his blog. Be sure to check it out. Read Ron’s Haiku Prompt Challenge Guidelines for more information.

self esteem-verbal_abuse-Haiku_Friday-Poetry-Vashti Quiroz Vega-Vashti Q-Ronovanwrites

self esteem-verbal_abuse-Haiku_Friday-Poetry-Vashti Quiroz Vega-Vashti Q-Ronovanwrites

You can tell me I

am beautiful but, I will

never believe you.

If you tell me I

am good for nothing, I will

always believe you.

self esteem-verbal_abuse-Haiku_Friday-Poetry-Vashti Quiroz Vega-Vashti Q-Ronovanwrites

self esteem-verbal_abuse-Haiku_Friday-Poetry-Vashti Quiroz Vega-Vashti Q-Ronovanwrites

42 Responses to “Haiku Friday – Choice & Faith”

  1. John W. Howell June 8, 2018 at 3:35 pm #

    Excellent, Vashti. I hope it works.

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  2. Gwen Plano June 8, 2018 at 3:47 pm #

    Words have immense power, and thus we must use them carefully. Otherwise, we shoulder their weight through guilt. Thank you for this reminder. The images and your verse make a powerful statement. 🙂

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    • Vashti Q June 9, 2018 at 12:02 pm #

      I agree, Gwen. Beautifully put, as usual. But I feel that out guilt is the least of the problem. Thank you! I’m happy you liked the haikus and pictures. 😀 xx

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  3. balroop2013 June 8, 2018 at 3:51 pm #

    I agree Vashti, words reverberate around us even if we try to shield our ears with the best of appreciation for ourselves. Some words hurt worse than daggers. Let everyone choose their words wisely. Both haiku are beautiful. Have a nice weekend.

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    • Vashti Q June 9, 2018 at 12:07 pm #

      Hello Balroop! Your words are always wise and insightful, my friend. I know you’ve also written of this subject on your blog. Thank you! You have a great weekend too. 😀 xx

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  4. awisewomansjourney June 8, 2018 at 4:00 pm #

    I’ve gone through what your friend has myself. So lovingly written!

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  5. DAMIENLEV June 8, 2018 at 4:16 pm #

    Reblogged this on DENIS LEVIEUX PHOTOGRAPHE INFOGRAPHISTE.

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  6. Michelle Abbott (@MichelleAbbott4) June 8, 2018 at 4:55 pm #

    Words are powerful. I would rather use them to raise someone up, than to bring them down. Great post, Vashti.

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    • Vashti Q June 9, 2018 at 12:17 pm #

      That’s wonderful of you to say, Michelle. I feel the same. Who knows how many people’s lives we can improve, simply by saying a few kind words. We don’t have to lie or make stuff up, either. There’s always something good one can say about another person. 😀 xx

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  7. whippetwisdom June 8, 2018 at 5:03 pm #

    Beautifully said Vashti, these childhood experiences can have a long-lasting impact and I am glad your friend is receiving additional help to overcome this 💜 xxx

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    • Vashti Q June 9, 2018 at 12:20 pm #

      Thank you very much! 😀 I’m very happy she’s getting help too. Have a great weekend! ❤ xx

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  8. Annette Rochelle Aben June 8, 2018 at 5:43 pm #

    BOOM! Arrow, right through the heart, here. Thank goodness, there are people who are trained to help us release the voices of our past… ❤

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    • Vashti Q June 9, 2018 at 12:26 pm #

      You can say that again! Some things we just can’t do on our own. I’m happy you liked the post, my friend! Have a great weekend! ❤ xx

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  9. trentpmcd June 8, 2018 at 6:05 pm #

    Great post, Vashti. Words have power and too many people abuse that power.

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    • Vashti Q June 9, 2018 at 12:30 pm #

      You’re absolutely right, Trent! The way I’ve heard some people talk to children is heartbreaking and many believe their kids will simply forget––they won’t.

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  10. Sunni Morris June 8, 2018 at 11:48 pm #

    Very powerful, Vashti, and certainly true. We should all be aware of what comes out of our mouths. Words can hurt people more than physical pain. Injuries will heal, but words leave lasting scars.

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    • Vashti Q June 9, 2018 at 12:34 pm #

      Hi Sunni! That’s so true. With everything that’s been happening in the world today, you would think people would be aware of this by now. Thank you, my friend!

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  11. D.L Finn, Author June 9, 2018 at 3:00 am #

    Very true Vashti! Thank you for writing about the power of words.

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    • Vashti Q June 9, 2018 at 12:35 pm #

      Hi Denise! We as writers understand the power of words but many people still don’t get it. Thank you! 🙂

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  12. Annika Perry June 9, 2018 at 7:25 am #

    Vashti, I feel for your friend and all the hurt she has endured as young. The power and impact of words is immense and the accumulation of such verbal abuse is terrible, settling in ones very being. I hope she can celebrate the steps in her life, the love of her family and friends at work and home. With you by her side she has a wonderful force for good! Your haiku is amazing, all too often true!

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    • Vashti Q June 9, 2018 at 12:42 pm #

      Hello Annika! Thank you for the kind and caring words, my friend. I’m happy you liked the haiku and you’re right, too many people will relate to this situation. ❤

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  13. dgkaye June 9, 2018 at 10:06 am #

    Powerful post Vashti. All you mentioned about self-esteem is exactly what I talk about in my book, Words We Carry. Those voices of condemnation are never very far away in our minds. I’m so glad your friend has a happy life and is getting help for the damage of her past ❤

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    • Vashti Q June 9, 2018 at 12:50 pm #

      Hi Debby! I know this is a subject that you write about in your books and blog. I’m glad you’re creating awareness, because you’d be surprised how many people still think they can say what they want to their kids, spouses, employees . . . without any consequence. Verbal, sexual, elderly, animal and child abuse, along with depression are subjects I like to bring up on my blog every so often, because raising awareness of something, is one of the first steps we can take, to put an end to a problem. I’m happy for my friend also. She’s a strong woman and I know she’ll get better with time. Thank you very much! ❤ xx

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      • dgkaye June 10, 2018 at 7:47 pm #

        Beautifully stated Vashti – probably part of our connection, 🙂 ❤

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      • Vashti Q June 10, 2018 at 10:11 pm #

        I think so too. ❤ xx

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  14. mihrank June 10, 2018 at 3:53 am #

    this is impressive, great reflection and practical

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  15. yvettemcalleiro June 11, 2018 at 2:36 pm #

    People tend to undermine the power of words. Verbal abuse is real and extremely harmful. I’m happy that your friend is working through those years, and I’m happy that you are bringing attention to the ramifications of verbal abuse.

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    • Vashti Q June 11, 2018 at 2:45 pm #

      You’re right, people continue to undermine the power that words have over us. As writers, we understand, but we need to let others know. Even the negative words we tell ourselves are harmful. Thank you so much, my friend. ❤ xx

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  16. Natalie Ducey June 11, 2018 at 5:37 pm #

    Beautifully said, Vashti! I hope your dear friend finds true inner peace. You’re a fabulous friend. XO

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    • Vashti Q June 15, 2018 at 10:48 am #

      Hi Natalie! I think she’s well on her way. Aw, I think you’re a wonderful person too. ❤ xx

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      • Natalie Ducey June 15, 2018 at 9:25 pm #

        That’s so wonderful to hear! 🙂 Hope you enjoy a fabulous weekend. XO

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      • Vashti Q June 16, 2018 at 6:04 pm #

        Thank you! You have a great weekend too!

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  17. Jill Weatherholt June 14, 2018 at 6:54 pm #

    Oh, the power words can have over our mind. This is a beautiful post, Vashti.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Vashti Q June 15, 2018 at 10:49 am #

      Hello Jill! If only more people understood the power of words. Thank you! ❤

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