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Am I A Sucker?

14 Nov

Am I A Sucker?

The other day I went to a nearby supermarket to buy strawberries, pineapple, kale, spinach and parsley for a smoothie I planned to make the following morning. The grocery store was busy for a Monday evening. I looked around and, of course, picked up a few knickknacks that were not on my shopping list—but what else is new. When I finally got to the checkout line, there were two people ahead of me (not bad).

I was caught up reading the latest gossip about Kim Kardashian and Miley Cyrus in the trashy magazines located in the racks conveniently placed near the register, when it dawned on me the line had not moved at all. The man at the head of the line took off, leaving all his groceries behind. The cashier pushed his groceries to one side and told the lady ahead of me to come forward. As she did, she asked what had happened. While the cashier explained, my ears were alert and focused (imagine a Chihuahua with its large ears standing at attention).

The man had forgotten his wallet at home, or so he claimed. As the cashier processed the groceries, her customer grimaced at the story, twisting her mouth and rolling her eyes. Then, as she was paying, the man suddenly returned. He explained to the cashier that he had misplaced his wallet and couldn’t find it. The customer sucked audibly on her teeth, shot him a dirty look, and walked away with her bags of groceries.

The man’s face wore an expression of complete humiliation. He continued to offer explanations to the woman behind the counter as she checked out my groceries. From the corner of my eye, I saw what he had come to get. There was no beer, whisky or cigarettes. As a matter of fact, his groceries consisted of staples: a pack of chicken drumsticks, milk, eggs, bread, a small bottle of vegetable oil, peanut butter, tomatoes and a package of American cheese.

I peeked at him and noticed his shoes were worn down to nothing. His pants were baggy and worn, as was his shirt. He had the look of a man going through hard times.

The cashier gave me my total. I paid. I left the supermarket.

As I walked away from the building, my heart grew heavy. I sat in my car. I’m not claiming to be Mother Teresa, but I couldn’t stand the thought of that man going hungry. I left my car and returned to the market. I ran to the checkout line. The man was no longer there, but his groceries still lay cramped in one corner. I asked the cashier where the man was, and she told me he had just walked out the door. I told the cashier I would pay for his groceries and then rushed to get him, but not before receiving a weird look from her.

I caught up to him at the corner and told him to come back to the store—that I would pay for his groceries. He refused. It took me quite a while to convince him to take my money. I finally told him he would be doing me a favor. The older man smiled faintly, took the money, and gave me his blessing. At that moment, I felt a weight lifted from me.

I’m not rich, and I know I’m no saint, but my gut told me this man really needed a break. He looked like he could be anyone’s dad. He was clean and did not smell of alcohol, and I could see anguish in his eyes. I was compelled to help him.

Some people I know tell me I’m a sucker. They say he went to the grocery store looking for a sucker to pay for his groceries. My answer to that is, maybe he did. Perhaps he was that hungry and that desperate.

So what do you think? Am I a sucker? Or did I do the right thing? What would you have done if you were in my shoes?

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88 Responses to “Am I A Sucker?”

  1. rcprice November 14, 2013 at 7:01 pm #

    You’re not a sucker, Vashti. You’re a good person who cares about people. Don’t change.

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    • kim hodges November 15, 2013 at 12:52 am #

      Vashti, my respect for you has grown even more, you most certainly did the right thing and i think that being kind in these times is becoming a rare quality, i am so touched. I’m sure the gentleman was really in need other wise he would not have just bought such basic items. You are a lovely kind person, please don’t change. XX

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      • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:04 am #

        Awww. Thank you so much Kim. It felt really good doing it and I would do it again in a heartbeat. You’re right there’s a serious lack of empathy nowadays and it’s sad. 🙂

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:00 am #

      Thank you Robert. 🙂 They made me feel like a sucker for only a millisecond, but then I realized I did the right thing.

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  2. Yolanda Isabel Regueira Marin November 14, 2013 at 7:05 pm #

    Good for you Vashti. At the end of the day you have to follow your own conscience and heart. Your heart told you that he was in need. Whether he was or not you will never know, but you walked away knowing that you may have helped someone in need … Definitely not a sucker xx

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:06 am #

      Thank you Yolanda. The more I think about it the more I realize that I did the right thing. I’m happy and relieved that I did so. 🙂

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  3. Shelly T November 14, 2013 at 7:05 pm #

    I would do the exact same thing. It is always better to do something kind and potentially life changing and be taken the fool than to do nothing and leave someone to suffer. About a year ago I was out of town at a restaurant during lunchtime with my daughter. Our waitress was running around doing her very best to take care of all of her tables. There were a few mishaps with our meal, not her fault, and she took care of them with great apologies. By the time we were done the restaurant had cleared out. She stopped by to bring us a free sundae for our patience and I got her talking. She told me the balance of her college tuition was due in a week, as was her rent. She was pale and it turned out because the restaurant was busy, she hadn’t been able to take a break and hadn’t yet eaten. I gave her a nice tip and when we left I felt that wasn’t enough. I went to the bank, pulled money out of my “just for me” account, went back to the restaurant and gave her the money to pay her tuition. Several of my daughter’s friends said I had probably been scammed and she was just weaving a story to get a bigger tip.

    Bottom line, it doesn’t matter to me. I can only live from my heart and do my best to make the world a better place. If I’m taken advantage of every now and again, so what? I have what matters most…family, a roof over my head, food for my tummy, and love.

    Rock on Vashti!

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 5:02 am #

      Shelly, that’s an amazing, heartwarming story! What you did changed that girl’s life and probably took a great weight off her shoulders. Thank you for sharing that. You’re a wonderful person and I’m so glad to know you. I feel the same way, I don’t believe the man was a con, but even if he was, so be it. I feel good about what I did and I’m so happy to see that a lot of people believe I did the right thing. 😀

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  4. Stacey Gannett (This Momma's Ramblings) November 14, 2013 at 7:16 pm #

    You are in no way a sucker! You did a completely beautiful and wonderful thing! I would hope that I would do the same thing, if I had the few extra dollars to have done so! Way to go beautiful lady!

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:53 am #

      Hello Stacey! Thank you so much for the sweet words. I have no doubt that you would do it if you could. 🙂

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  5. Juan November 14, 2013 at 7:23 pm #

    I think you did what “most descent, non judgemental” persons would do. People have a hard time believing others because our society, as well as other societies, are full of skepticism and cynicism.
    Feel good about yourself, I have done it before, and probably will do it again.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:52 am #

      Hello Juan! Thank you! It’s so good to know that so many others would have done the same. I’m happy to be surrounded by such awesome people. I would definitely do it again. 😀

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  6. Melissa Swedoski November 14, 2013 at 7:34 pm #

    His circumstances are irrelevant. The fact was that he was in need and you took the time to notice and do what was in your power to do. Thankfully you were there, because otherwise, there’s a good chance that no one would have helped. Kudos to you!

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:49 am #

      Thank you Melissa. I agree, the circumstances are irrelevant. In the end we’re all going to be judged by our acts and the sincerity of them. I’m glad I did what I did. 😀

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  7. authors promotion November 14, 2013 at 8:30 pm #

    You are a lucky one because you could help that man and you did a great thing.
    In this difficult times is so rare to have somebody who cares, rare someone ready to give a handor even kind words.
    God bless you

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:47 am #

      Thank you Madi! I feel lucky because it happened on a day that I was able to help him. Had it happened on another day I may not have been able to do it. These times are difficult, but I think during the hard times is when we should be kinder to each other. 🙂

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  8. Bonnie Frank November 14, 2013 at 8:47 pm #

    Your gut told you what to do, and if I had the money, I would have done the same thing that evening. He’ll pay it forward for someone else one day when he is able. You should feel proud of what you did.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:40 am #

      Hi Bonnie! Thank you! I definitely feel proud of what I did now. Some people have a way of making you doubt yourself. It won’t happen again. Like a friend of mine said, doing good causes no harm. 🙂

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  9. nicolehubbard10 November 14, 2013 at 9:32 pm #

    Vashti,
    You are certainly not a sucker for helping that man out. That is very touching. Many people are struggling now since the economy has gone to hell, and there are people actually losing their jobs. You certainly gave him a breath of fresh air for helping him out.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:08 am #

      Hi Nicole, it’s nice to hear from you. Thank you. You’re right, times are rough and there are a lot of people suffering.

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  10. Teagan Kearney November 14, 2013 at 9:51 pm #

    Another point to consider, Vashti, is that you actually gain the credit (so to speak) for doing a good deed – and that stays with you irrespective of whether the recipient is genuine or not. It does sound, though, as if this man was in real need – and I agree with the other comments – I think you did the right thing. Being generous in today’s economic climate isn’t easy – but just as there are always those who are better off than us, there are always those who are worse off.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:17 am #

      Hello Teagan, you’re right, I did get some brownie points, but better than that I got peace of mind. I believe someone didn’t go to bed hungry that night because of me and that feels really good and humbling.

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  11. powerofnaming November 15, 2013 at 12:18 am #

    You did the right thing. Without a doubt.

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  12. ajwrites57 November 15, 2013 at 12:41 am #

    Good for you Vashti! I believe when an opportunity to do good arises we should take it. I would ask those who say you are a sucker if they ever needed help and it was withheld how they felt. Those we help live with their conscience as we live with ours. I believe doing good is never wrong.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:20 am #

      Hi Aj! Like I was telling Kim, there’s a serious lack of empathy in the world today and it scares me. Some people can’t see past their own needs. I agree with you. Doing good is never wrong. 🙂 Thank you!

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  13. peternoahthomas November 15, 2013 at 1:30 am #

    Even if that man went to the store with ulterior motives, that doesn’t change the very kind and generous thing you did. It came from your heart so no matter what the circumstances actually were, the kind and thoughtful thing you did is the only thing that matters. This story made my week. Thank you.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:33 am #

      Hello Peter, thank you so much for your kind words. You almost brought a tear to my eye. I’m so glad I made your week. 😀

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  14. Vanessa Trevilcock November 15, 2013 at 2:45 am #

    AWW as I was reading it I was totally thinking “Que pena! Man I would have paid for him” I didn’t understand the behavior of the cashier and other lady. It wasn’t until you explained what other people thought that I realized that was a possibility. I’m so happy that you helped him it’s exactly what I would have done and if that makes us suckers I’m completely okay with that. Love you too much! [= Cheers to all the suckers out there =]

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:30 am #

      Hi Vane! Unfortunately I know a few people that would have reacted the same as the cashier and the lady ahead of me at the checkout line. I believe we are the minorities in this situation. I’m quite impressed and proud of the quality and kindness of the people following this blog. Maybe we should start a club (Suckers-R-Us). Ha,ha! Seriously though, I don’t feel like a sucker. I think for a brief moment I was a superhero 😉 Ha,ha!

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  15. Ashwin November 15, 2013 at 4:16 am #

    I would have done the same thing if I were you…
    You’ve done the right thing, Vashti. Doing good to someone causes no harm and branding you as ‘sucker’ for this is totally insane.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 4:24 am #

      Hello Ashwin! Thank you very much. You’re right, doing good causes no harm. 🙂

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  16. Manhattan Image and Style November 15, 2013 at 6:36 pm #

    My heart was raising fast while I was reading this! I LOVE people with GIANT hearts like you! This is an amazing and inspiring story! You def did the right thing and I would have done the same! We need to share compassion to others in need. ❤

    I have a new video up on my blog now, I hope you like it! 😉
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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 7:12 pm #

      Hello Diana! Thank you very much. We do need to show each other compassion, I agree. These are tough times. I’ll go check it out. Thank you! 😀

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  17. Doreen Sargente November 15, 2013 at 11:07 pm #

    I’m glad you followed your heart and didn’t overthink the situation. If it felt right to do it, then you did the right thing. It doesn’t matter what his personal circumstances are or what, if any, motives he may have had.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 15, 2013 at 11:21 pm #

      Hello Doreen,

      Thank you. I feel good about it. I’m sure I did the right thing. Have a wonderful weekend! 🙂

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  18. Ben Roach November 16, 2013 at 1:49 pm #

    Not a sucker, not at all Vashti. You’re an angel is what you are. Sometimes we just have to do what is right by our nature and ignore what everyone else thinks. You should be very proud of yourself. I certainly proud of you 🙂

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 16, 2013 at 2:34 pm #

      Hi Ben! Your words are heartwarming.Thank you so much. You’re absolutely right, there are times we need to go with our gut and do what’s right and ignore bad influences. Thanks again! xx 😀

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  19. Ginene Nagel November 17, 2013 at 3:18 am #

    After I read your blog today, I thought, “That is a person I would like to know.” I don’t think that man was faking anything or trying to get someone to pay for his groceries. I think something bad happened to him that day. And it wouldn’t matter if he was putting on an act. Your kind reaction to another being in need is what lifts up the soul and makes the world a better place to live. Good for you for improving the world! I bet those of us who read your piece today will remember to open up our eyes and hearts to someone in a bad situation because of your post.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 17, 2013 at 4:56 am #

      Hello Ginene,

      It is very nice to meet you. Thank you so much for the kind words. I don’t believe he was faking it either, but like you said, it really doesn’t matter. Oh I hope so. That would be wonderful. Have a great Sunday and thank you for stopping by and leaving such a sweet comment.:D

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  20. Easy Life Meal & Party Planning November 17, 2013 at 4:57 am #

    You definitely did the right thing for all the right reasons. You will never know whether he was being sincere or not but I bet your instincts were spot on – they usually are. We should all learn to trust our instincts more plus let our heart lead us more often!

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 17, 2013 at 6:12 am #

      Hello! Is this Terri or Shawna? Thank you very much. You are so right! 😀

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  21. jorobinson176 November 17, 2013 at 9:25 am #

    You’re an awesome person Vashti, with a really beautiful soul. 🙂

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  22. Rosey November 18, 2013 at 1:45 am #

    There’s a difference between being a sucker and being someone who listens to your heart. The latter is awesome, and that’s where you fell with the groceries. Hats off to you for listening to your heart and making the extra effort to be that hand he might have needed.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 18, 2013 at 4:16 pm #

      Hello Rosey, I agree with you 100%. I just wanted to use the exact words “they” used to describe me for doing what I did. I feel comfortable and good that I made the right decision in helping that man out. “They” are not evil people, but sometimes “they” have a hard time seeing past their own needs. I believe that our society as a whole is seriously lacking in empathy. The positive feedback I’ve received in this blog has brought tears to my eyes and has also given me hope that there are still so many good people out there (like you). Thank you so much for your sweet words and for stopping by 😀

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  23. Brittnei November 18, 2013 at 4:30 am #

    I loved reading this post! I honestly don’t think you were a sucker at all. I wish there were more people like you out there, girl. I think from reading everyone around you through your eyes that this guy wasn’t expecting you to do that at all, but he truly needed that. People are quick to think the worse about people. This really brings tears to my eyes because I know what that man could be going through. Thanks do much for sharing with us at Countdown in Style. Don’t forget to come back on Friday to see if you are featured! xoxo

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 18, 2013 at 4:25 pm #

      Hi Brittnei (love your name, by the way)! Thank you so much for coming by and reading my post. I’m glad you enjoyed it. After the experience I had I was thinking the same as you, that maybe more people had “their” point of view instead of mine, but I was wrong. I have had so much positive feedback from people who would have done the same thing I did that it’s renewed my faith in people. People like you and the others who have commented here are genuinely good people who rejoice when others do good for a change. Thank you for that! Countdown in Style was fun. I’d love to be there on Friday. 😀 Have a great day!

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  24. Amber Neal November 18, 2013 at 10:17 am #

    I love this. I live under the thought that you should always choose to do the right thing and help someone if you can. If they do something wrong then that is on them. I think what you put out to the world you get back so if you put out good then good floats back at you! So if you are a sucker – so am I because I would have done the same thing. I love that you listened to your heart! Beautiful! I am sharing this on the Adventures In Mindful Livings FB page later today! Thanks for linking up with it this week!

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 18, 2013 at 4:34 pm #

      Hi Amber! That was exactly my thinking at the time. I genuinely felt that he needed help, but if I was conned, which I seriously doubt (otherwise he deserves an academy award for best acting at a supermarket), so be it. I too believe in karma, but that was not the driving force behind what I did. You’re right, I did follow my heart and I’ll never feel silly for doing that again. Good people like you and the others who have commented here have truly made me see that what I did was the right thing. Thank you so much. Would you send me a link to your FB page so that I may share it? Thanks again. 😀

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  25. Stephanie @ From the Burbs to the Boonies November 18, 2013 at 2:27 pm #

    You know, I think we have to do what we feel is right in our heart, what we feel compelled and called to do. Now, it may mean we’re a ‘sucker’ sometimes, but I’d rather do the right thing and maybe be tricked a time or two than not try at all. He didn’t take your life savings. He got some food that he needed one way or another. I say you did great.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 18, 2013 at 5:01 pm #

      Hello Stephanie! Thank you. I agree with everything you wrote. Sometimes you just have to go out on a limb and do what’s right. I don’t think he was a con man. I think he was in a desperate situation. If I’m wrong and I was duped, oh well, that’s on him. I would do it again because it was the right thing to do. Thank you so much! 😀

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  26. JESS44903 November 18, 2013 at 11:29 pm #

    You sound like an amazing person! 🙂

    Thanks again for joining the Link Up this week!

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  27. Suzanne Steele November 19, 2013 at 12:39 am #

    You did the right thing Vashti; you followed your heart♥

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  28. fairytaleepidemic November 19, 2013 at 6:39 am #

    Wow. Just wow. Yes, I get the same stories about people getting suckered into doing kind things for others, but I would have done what you have. And maybe it was a lie or a scam, but maybe, just maybe this act of kindness was truly needed. We need more people who have faith in the human race. Much respect and love goes out to you Vasthi.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 19, 2013 at 6:39 pm #

      Awww. Thank you so much. It’s important to follow your heart and always do what you feel is right. There will always be people that will ridicule you for it, but so be it. 😀

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  29. Lisa Nelson (@Squishablebaby) November 19, 2013 at 10:36 am #

    Honestly, if I was in need of food, I wouldn’t go to the grocery story – would you? Just think about it. If you don’t have any money, you wouldn’t think someone would go to the grocery story in America. 9.9 times out of 10, people would just shoot you a dirty look, roll their eyes and push you out of the way. It would be very rare that someone would actually buy your food – right?

    In my rush with kids and a million things to do, I have forgotten my wallet, or misplaced my credit card (like it was in between the seats in the car or I left it at home, or whatever). Just because someone looks a certain way – doesn’t mean they are. I guess that’s my point. You really can’t judge a book by it’s cover.

    It’s very well might be that this man has fallen on hard times. I have seen millionaires in torn up shoes – we bought this house from one. You would never tell that he was loaded. He lived in a small house, hardly had any furniture and dressed like nothing. Maybe this dude in your story was an artist or writer or millionaire – we just don’t know. Or maybe he lost his family or made a huge mistake or lost his Mother – and just didn’t really care that day. He could have really misplaced his wallet.

    I know from experience, when you can’t find your wallet/money and you are in a line, it is not a good feeling.

    Regardless of what he looked like or what he really was – you helped him which was a beautiful thing. He will always remember you and your great kindness.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 19, 2013 at 5:46 pm #

      Hello Lisa, I definitely understand your point. When I was in my early twenties and in college I once went to the supermarket, and then realized at the checkout line that my wallet was in my other purse. I was so embarrassed, but before I could apologize to the cashier and leave the woman behind me on line (a sweet middle-aged woman) paid for my groceries. I turned beet red and told her it was okay, but she wouldn’t take no for an answer. I was shocked and impressed by her kindness and generosity and I’ve never forgotten her. I was young and a bit scatter-brained then, but this lady taught me a lesson I have never forgotten. To me, it doesn’t matter who this man was or whether he had money or not. I feel good about what I did and I would do it again under the same circumstances. I’ll let God do the judging. You’re right though, one should never judge a book by its cover. 🙂

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  30. lizardlollies November 20, 2013 at 3:53 am #

    Maybe he really did just forget his wallet. It does happen. Or maybe he was hungry and hoping against hope that he could rely on the kindness of a stranger. I would not say you were a sucker. Most of us have been through hard times, or even stuck there still. A little kindness from a stranger can go so very far.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 20, 2013 at 5:09 pm #

      Hello Heather! I believe it’s one of those situations. So either way I feel good that I was able help. You’re right, most of us have been through hard times. A little empathy goes a long way. Thank you! 😀

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  31. April (@100LBC) November 21, 2013 at 6:14 pm #

    Maybe, but who cares? He bought essentials, the necessary and if you could provide it for him, even it’s because he wasn’t willing to provide it himself, it was no different from giving someone a gift. He was in need and you helped. God bless you.

    Thanks for sharing and linking up with Countdown in Style! Don’t forget to come back on Friday to see if you were featured!

    ~~April~~
    100lbCountdown.com

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 23, 2013 at 4:28 am #

      Hello April! You’re right, what matters is doing the right thing. Thank you! 😀

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  32. phenomenalmama November 22, 2013 at 2:43 pm #

    Truly a heartwarming story! If I had the money, I probably would’ve done the same thing. It’s not about his motivation, it’s about YOURS and you did this from the goodness of your heart to help a fellow human being. We should all try and extend a little kindness towards our fellow human beings- it just might make the world a nicer place.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 22, 2013 at 3:47 pm #

      Hello Tracie! You’re so right. I don’t believe he was a con, but like you said, it was about doing the right thing. Thank you so much. 😀

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  33. Miriam November 24, 2013 at 2:07 pm #

    That was really nice of you to do that, it’s ashamed that we live in a society where we don’t have many people like you.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 25, 2013 at 5:45 pm #

      Hello Miriam! Thank you so much for the kind words. You’d be surprised how many people would do the same, but you’re right our society could be a bit more empathetic. You have a wonderful week. 🙂

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  34. Kimberly H. Smith December 28, 2013 at 4:06 pm #

    What a wonderful story, Vashti. I probably would have done the same thing. You were led with your heart and not your mind. The world needs more people to do what you did. You will be blessed because of your random act of kindness regardless of what the man’s circumstances were.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega January 1, 2014 at 3:20 pm #

      Hello Kimberly! Thank you very much! ‘Til this day I feel good about doing it. I know it was the right thing to do and I would definitely do it again if the situation arises. Thanks again for your visit and for your kind words. 😀

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  35. Lexxie @ (un)Conventional Bookviews January 10, 2014 at 11:17 am #

    I think what you did is a beautiful show of human compassion and a big heart! And that does not make you a sucker! What you did is really wonderful, and if more people acted like this, maybe less would be starving – even in ‘rich’ countries things can be really hard.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega January 10, 2014 at 12:50 pm #

      Hello Lexxie! Thank you very much for stopping by and for your kind words. Happy New Year! 😀

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  36. Scott Kaelen January 10, 2014 at 12:06 pm #

    Hi Vashti. 🙂 Like everyone else, I praise your decency. But (and here’s where I gain enemies, probably) for such a ‘genuine’ person, this man shouldn’t have felt the need for subterfuge in the first place. There are easier and better ways for someone down on their luck to get noticed by a kind soul; there shouldn’t be any need for the ‘oh, I seem to have forgotten my wallet’ malarkey, which, let’s face it, is about as cliched and overused as a magical deus ex machina object of prophecy in a fantasy story.

    Are you a sucker? I think you’re a better person than me, put it that way. I once gave money to a young girl on the street who was dirty, greasy-haired and wearing clothes that looked like they were out of a charity shop’s bargain bin. She took the money without even a ‘thank you’ and wandered off. I watched her walk down the street and give the money (a £10 note, by the way) to a guy on the street corner.

    Years ago I walked a particular route to work, and now and again I would see a tramp sitting in a tunnel begging passers-by for change. I gave him some loose change the first time, but not the second, and at a later time I saw the same guy looking very clean and dressed quite smartly walking into a pub, some weeks later I saw him again in the tunnel in his raggedy clothes. I told him to stop taking the p*** out of decent people and to get some self-re-c**king-spect.

    I think the moral of the story is that the truth will get you much more than a lie ever will. If you’re down on your luck, facing hard times, do yourself a favour before swallowing your pride – swallow your lies first.

    There are three types of people who have ‘hit rock bottom’:
    1. The genuine ones who make no attempt to gloss over their situation
    2. The ones who gloss over their situation by stretching the truth and/or lying
    3. The ones who pretend to have hit rock bottom, aka confidence tricksters

    I respect genuine people, no matter their situation in life.

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega January 10, 2014 at 12:47 pm #

      Hi Scott! I completely understand your point of view and I don’t think you’ll gain any enemies here. Not for simply giving an opinion. I understand there are plenty of con-artists out there trolling the streets for good-hearted people because they perceive ‘kindness’ as a weakness they can exploit. It doesn’t matter to me. I’m going to always try to do what I feel in my heart to be the right thing, but believe me I’m no dummy. Like I’ve said before, if the man was lying than so be it, that’s on him. I did what I felt was the right thing to do. You are right about the different types of panhandlers though. Thank you for stopping by and I appreciate your comment. 🙂

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  37. Thank you for sharing that. You’re a wonderful person and I’m so glad to know you. I feel the same way, I don’t believe the man was a con, but even if he was, so be it. I feel good about what I did and I’m so happy to see that a lot of people believe I did the right thing. :

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    • Vashti Quiroz-Vega March 25, 2014 at 12:13 pm #

      Hello! You’re welcome and thank you for the kind words. I’m glad you feel the same way. It makes me happy to know there are people like you out there. 😀

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  38. Vashti Quiroz-Vega November 21, 2013 at 4:08 pm #

    Wow! Thank you Kenneth so much for featuring me on your blog. 😀

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