Poetry Friday ~ Kind & Shift

26 Jul

Hello, everyone! Thanks for stopping by!

 

Can people really change? Is there an age limit? Can a person be too old to become their best self?

I understand we’re all born with certain characteristics and traits inherited from our parents and other family members but aren’t our personalities also molded by how we grew up? Our environment? Our education?

I woke up this morning thinking about this; can a person after years of being a certain way suddenly change? Or is it too late for some?

I believe personality can change, especially over time. Using myself as an example, I know I’ve become more responsible and emotionally stable as I’ve gotten older. In addition, events in my life have caused changes in my attitude and character traits. I’ve also made choices through the years to change certain aspects of my personality. Does that mean I’m a perfect saint? Absolutely not––but I’m working on it.

I also believe that adults can change their character, no matter their age if they see that the present way they conduct themselves holds them back or causes them losses or harm. Your personality isn’t hardwired or a matter of genetics. I sense that our human nature is complex, yet capable of growth. You may differ in opinion and that’s okay.

So, what is the (my) bottom line? Unless you have a genuine personality disorder you can change and even those people with personality disorders can change if they seek treatment.

So there you have it. Whatever you believe there’s no excuse for being unkind or intolerant––you can change your behavior and way of thinking and be the best version of yourself.

 

Today I wrote two Cinquain poems. I hope you enjoy. 

 

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BEFORE . . .

 

Before

I was someone

I didn’t want to be

I was sad, lost, and invisible

I changed

Before

I became strong

I knew what it was like

to be weak and undeserving

I changed

 

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Kind and Shift are this week’s prompt words chosen by Colleen Chesebro ~ The Fairy Whisperer.

*The catch is that we can only use the synonyms to these words in our poems.

Colleen hosts a challenge that anyone could participate in called, Colleen’s Weekly Tanka Tuesday Poetry Challenge every Tuesday, and you have until Sunday to create a post featuring your Haiku, Tanka, Haibun, Etheree or Cinquain poem. She is an author and poet, and also does book reviews and so much more on her blog. Be sure to check it out.

Let me know what you think in the comments below.

57 Responses to “Poetry Friday ~ Kind & Shift”

  1. D.L. Finn, Author July 26, 2019 at 1:53 pm #

    We are always changing and learning. Each day we become a better person by choice:) Great point and poem, Vashti! Hope your weekend is the best one ever.

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    • Vashti Q July 26, 2019 at 1:55 pm #

      Hi, Denise! I certainly agree with you but not everyone thinks so. Thank you! I wish the same for you. ❤

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Priscilla Bettis July 26, 2019 at 1:54 pm #

    I think adults who are introspective and want to improve some aspect of their personality can change with desire and hard work, especially hard work because ways of acting get so ingrained. Nice poems.:-)

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    • Vashti Q July 26, 2019 at 1:56 pm #

      You’re so right, Priscilla! Thank you. Have a lovely weekend! 😀 xo

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  3. Jacquie Biggar July 26, 2019 at 2:16 pm #

    This posts hits the mark, Vashti. It’s never too late, if you work on becoming a kinder person. ❤

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    • Vashti Q July 27, 2019 at 6:43 pm #

      I’m so happy you agree, Jacquie. Thank you and enjoy the rest of the weekend! ❤ xo

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  4. Bette A. Stevens July 26, 2019 at 2:24 pm #

    Encouraging words well spoken… 🙂

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  5. Annette Rochelle Aben July 26, 2019 at 3:17 pm #

    Strong, happy, me! ❤

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  6. Colleen Chesebro July 26, 2019 at 4:31 pm #

    What a delightful commentary, Vashti, to accompany your cinquain poems. I think you are right. But, the person must want to facilitate change. Some change is inevitable I think because we grow from our experiences which develop into wisdom. As we age, this introspection helps us to change our views. Yet, others refuse to change, happy to wallow in their own dogma. ❤

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    • Vashti Q July 27, 2019 at 6:49 pm #

      You’re right, Colleen. If a person doesn’t want to change there’s nothing anyone can do. You’re also right about some changes being inevitable due to your circumstances. Thank you, sis! ❤ xo

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  7. Cleopatra Trevilcock July 26, 2019 at 4:43 pm #

    Wow Sis, you impress and touch me deeper each day!!!

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  8. coldhandboyack July 26, 2019 at 6:07 pm #

    I don’t think there is a perfect answer to this one. We can change with dedication and effort. How much of that is ingrained genetically, we’ll probably never know. Most people don’t change, but it is possible.

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    • Vashti Q July 27, 2019 at 6:53 pm #

      I think you’re right about the possibility that some things may be ingrained in us genetically but I don’t think this includes your whole personality. I believe most people can change it’s just harder for some. Thanks for your comment, my friend. 😀

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  9. Soooz July 26, 2019 at 7:21 pm #

    I heard a simple expression many years ago, and I’ve acknowledged the pure sense and simplicity of it for decades. It went like this … “If you always do what you have always done, then, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” I repeat it to myself often. I love the self-understanding you’ve expressed in this poem.

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    • Vashti Q July 27, 2019 at 6:56 pm #

      Thanks for your insightful comment and for sharing this quote. It’s so true! If we don’t take risks and try different things we’ll grow stagnant. I’m happy you enjoyed the Cinquain. 🙂 xo

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  10. faithanncolburn July 26, 2019 at 9:23 pm #

    I agree with you. People can change and I don’t think there’s an age limit. It’s a matter of deciding to behave differently. That changing behavior can change a person’s psychology. If I behave courageously, I become courageous.

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    • Vashti Q July 27, 2019 at 6:58 pm #

      I LOVE your way of thinking, Faith! It’s so true. I’ve seen and experienced proof of this. Thank you for the wonderful comment. 😀

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  11. Robert Matthew Goldstein July 26, 2019 at 9:43 pm #

    Well said!

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  12. Miriam Hurdle July 27, 2019 at 2:19 am #

    Great thinking and reflection, Vashti. Yes, a certain percentage of personality and characters are born with and passed on to us from our parents and grandparents. Certain characteristics could skip generations. But mostly, we’ve become who we are through education and environment.

    We still can change in older age. I met two ladies in their early 70s. They had strong personalities, but they said they learned to listen to their grown children in the last two years and changed certain habits.

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    • Vashti Q July 27, 2019 at 7:02 pm #

      Thank you for your wise comment, Miriam. Yes, I agree that our environment and education does influence our behavior. Thanks for sharing about the two ladies you met. That’s wonderful to know. ❤

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      • Miriam Hurdle July 28, 2019 at 1:08 am #

        Thank you, Vashti. I think it’s important for the kids to learn to make changes. I realized that an open-minded person can make changes into his/her old age but others can change even when they are young. ❤

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    • Vashti Q July 28, 2019 at 2:08 pm #

      I agree. ❤

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  13. karenringalls July 27, 2019 at 6:55 am #

    If we could not change ourselves, what a sad world it would be. I often think about the three C’s quote: “You must make a choice to take a chance, or your life will never change.” Loved your post and poem.

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    • Vashti Q July 27, 2019 at 7:06 pm #

      Great quote, Karen! Thanks for sharing it. I agree, what would life be like if we couldn’t change ourselves? Yet, some people sadly believe that they cannot change. I’m happy you enjoyed the post! Thank you! ❤

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  14. dgkaye July 27, 2019 at 9:07 pm #

    Loved your message, loved the delivery, and the artwork. I think yes and no to the question. Yes we can change our ways, our minds, our personalities, but I think it’s very difficult to change one’s nature or temperment, even morals, so I have to stick with a saying I have a bad habit of saying when faced with a repetitive scenario with some people – You can’t change the spots on a leopard. ❤

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    • Vashti Q July 28, 2019 at 2:12 pm #

      Yes, some things are ingrained into our very being and can be extremely difficult to change. After a certain age, some people don’t care to change. They figure, they’ve put up with me this long, why change now? ❤

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    • Vashti Q July 29, 2019 at 12:55 pm #

      Exactly. :/

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  15. dgkaye July 27, 2019 at 9:12 pm #

    Me again, just to let you know, FB won’t let me share as the old message popped up ‘Facebook has reports this is abusive content’ LOL seriously! Shared on MeWe where nobody Big Brother’s us. ❤

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    • Vashti Q July 28, 2019 at 2:15 pm #

      What?! FB is seriously getting on my nerves. Who would report this post or any of my posts as abusive? It doesn’t make sense. Anyway . . . I have to check out MeWe. Thanks for the info., my friend. 😉 ❤

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    • Vashti Q July 29, 2019 at 12:56 pm #

      Thank you! ❤

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  16. Jan Sikes July 27, 2019 at 11:15 pm #

    I definitely think people can change if they desire to do so, Vashti. I also believe it is impossible to force someone to change if they are not willing. As Denise said, we are always growing and learning and therefore morphing into someone different and (hopefully) better. Great poem! Have a great weekend!

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    • Vashti Q July 28, 2019 at 2:17 pm #

      Happy Sunday, Jan! I’m happy you agree. Thank you! Enjoy the rest of the weekend! 😀 xo

      Liked by 1 person

  17. mihrank July 28, 2019 at 1:15 am #

    this poet is hit of music melody brings live, vibrant and a great journey!

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  18. Natalie Ducey July 28, 2019 at 10:29 am #

    Lovely poem and message, Vashti! I think the more we embrace this exquisite journey of life our desire to live an authentic life, one that enriches the mind, body, and soul becomes prominent and aligned with intrinsic value, rather than external means. This is my experience. Thanks for sharing another gem with us. Happy Sunday! XO

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  19. Marje @ Kyrosmagica July 29, 2019 at 3:34 am #

    Wonderful poem and thoughtful introduction too Vashti. 🙂

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  20. H.R.R. Gorman July 29, 2019 at 12:32 pm #

    Very powerful! I enjoyed the growth, the contrast of weakness and strength in that second stanza.

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  21. Jill Weatherholt July 29, 2019 at 1:05 pm #

    Hi Vashti! Fantastic poem! I don’t think we can change people, but I do believe people are able to make changes, if they want to.

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    • Vashti Q July 29, 2019 at 1:09 pm #

      I agree. I think a person has to be ready for change and I’ve never believed in trying to change people. Thank you for the wonderful comment, Jill! 😀

      Liked by 2 people

  22. memadtwo July 29, 2019 at 1:06 pm #

    It’s a continuous process…but we must keep at it. Inspiring words! (K)

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    • Vashti Q July 29, 2019 at 1:11 pm #

      You’re so right. We should always be striving to grow and better ourselves. Thank you, K! 😀

      Liked by 2 people

  23. yvettemcalleiro July 30, 2019 at 9:41 am #

    I agree with you that we can change. We are always evolving. I try to be a better person today than I was yesterday. It keeps me focused on being positive and kind to everyone. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    • Vashti Q July 30, 2019 at 7:12 pm #

      That’s a wonderful attitude to have and I wish most people thought like you. ❤

      Liked by 1 person

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